Easy Ways to Help Someone Recover from Surgery

January 25, 2025

We all want to support our family, friends, and loved ones after they undergo surgery. Whether it’s a major operation or a laparoscopic surgery, the recovery period can be a challenging transition. Everyone’s recovery period following surgery looks different, but there are common ways you can help.

Whether you’ll be staying with them during their recovery or just visiting, here’s how you can make life easier as they rest, heal, and regain their strength.

Setting up their home for recovery

Preparing the home for recovery is one of the most valuable ways to help someone after surgery. Depending on the type of procedure and their physical condition, they’ll likely spend most of the first week—or longer—at home. A few simple adjustments can make a big difference, like ensuring essential items are easy to access and minimising unnecessary movement.

Set aside an afternoon or evening before their return from the hospital to create a calm, comfortable recovery space. Create a list of what they’ll need, what’s already available, and what might need to be purchased. Once you have everything, set up multiple "recovery hubs" around the house. Keep essential items like medications, water, snacks, and personal care supplies within easy reach. Adding practical tools, such as jar openers or non-slip bathmats, can promote safety and independence.

How to help someone recover from surgery - senior couple enjoying food together in kitchen

Planning nutritious and varied meals

A well-balanced, nutritious diet is important at every stage of surgery recovery. However, cooking can feel like a chore—especially when it leaves behind a pile of dishes—so any help in the kitchen is usually appreciated. If you’re cooking for them, talk to them about their likes and dislikes. Focus on creating meals that are both nutritious and enjoyable, keeping the menu varied to avoid food fatigue. A mix of comfort food and lighter, nutrient-rich meals often works well.

To take the burden off them, go the extra mile and pick up the groceries for them or suggest going together if they’re able.

Checking in and spending time together

As their recovery continues, nothing beats coming to see them in person. When you’re dropping in, here are some things you could do:

  • Ask thoughtful questions: Go beyond “How are you?” by asking more specific, supportive questions. For example, “How’s getting around the house going?” or “Is there anything that would make things easier for you?” This encourages honest conversations and shows you care.
  • Pass the time with games: An invisible obstacle to recovery is boredom. At some point, they might get tired of reading or watching TV. Playing a board game or a casual video game together can be a fun way to break up the day and lift their spirits.
  • Complete their chores for them: Taking care of tasks like cleaning, vacuuming, or doing laundry allows them to rest and focus on recovery.
  • Go for a walk: Moving the body is usually recommended after surgery instead of staying sedentary. A walk around the block is good for both the body and mind. Getting fresh air and having a chat are all conducive to a healthy recovery.

What to say to someone after surgery

Words of encouragement can be just as important as physical help during post-surgery recovery. Kind messages can lift their spirits and help them feel supported. However, knowing what to say can be tricky, and it’s natural to worry about saying the wrong thing. If you’re unsure how to express yourself, remember—it’s the thought that truly counts.

To make it easier, we’ve put together some suggestions for what to say. These simple yet thoughtful phrases can inspire you and bring comfort to someone during their recovery:

  • I’m thinking of you today, sending you lots of love!
  • Wishing you all the best with your recovery.
  • You’re so strong, don’t forget that.
  • Remember, it’s okay to feel fed up and frustrated.
  • I hope today is a little bit easier than yesterday.
  • You’re going through a lot right now, it’s okay to acknowledge how tough it is.
  • This is your chance to put yourself first, don’t worry about anything else.

Even a small message can brighten their day and remind them they’re not alone.

Being a helpful support person only takes a few steps

From cooking to doing chores, these are just some of the ways you can help someone recover from surgery. Recovery can be challenging, but there are plenty of ways to provide assistance. As an experienced HPB surgeon, Dr Michael Chu has helped many patients ease into post-surgery recovery. If you’re looking for expert care, book a consultation today.